[Q & A] “Is it possible that some people are just incapable of being happy?”

Dearest Subscriber, Today, I wanted to share a question posed on one of my recent YouTube videos: “Is it possible that some people are just incapable of being happy?” Depends on your definition of “Happiness”. If, in this case, you are thinking of “happiness” as a static state of being and contentment, then in my opinion, I would say yes. THAT is impossible. For ANYONE. Because our desire is ever expanding and you will only remain content with things for so long before your desire for something bigger and better comes along, and isn’t that a wonderful thing? What a wild ride this life is. Now, “bigger and better” doesn’t necessarily have to mean you are always seeking a new romantic partner, or infidelity is a fact of life, but it does mean you have to have enough of an underlying understanding and complementary agreement within the relationship, that allows for the expansion and growth of each individual separately, and the relationship as its own kind of third entity. Your relationship will change. It will not remain the same, as it is, in this moment, and neither will you. Nor will your partner. As happy as you might be in a euphoric state, that happiness leads to a desire for deepening intimacy, doesn’t it? And deepening intimacy leads to a desire for growing in other ways as a couple; children, a home, building a business together, traveling together...so on and so forth. Your relationship CANNOT stay the same. And why would you want it to? But, if we are to think of happiness as a fluid state, meaning, a growing and functional awareness of all the parts of you that bubble to the surface, based on the new experiences and contexts in which you find yourself, then I believe happiness is possible, and you are encountering it all the time. In this video I share more about how I put this into practice in my personal life. These are all ways in which we practice Happiness, on a daily basis without trying to box it into a static definition of “happily ever after” which is truly a state of dependency on the conditions of others. If you are interested in learning more about how I have shared these practices in my clinical work and with hundreds of other individuals seeking soul-shaking, passionate partnerships… I invite you to check out my signature course, HEALING ATTACHMENT WOUNDS WITH MINDFULNESS AND CREATIVE ARTS THERAPIES. This course offers 7 creative, fun, easy lessons over the course of 7 weeks, and Combines neuroscience, attachment theory, mindfulness-based practices, and creative arts therapies practices,to help illuminate some of the struggles you may be going through, without having to talk in circles around your feelings for hours (or even years) on end, with no tangible result. This course explores... The intersections between attachment, complicated grief and addiction. How to transform anxious feelings using guided visualizations. Six signs of the anxious avoidant trap and the role of fantasy in “push-pull”