Are You Criticising Me? - Happiness Vlog HD

Is there a hidden meaning behind what people say? Watch this! X If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for DAILY inspirational videos! -- To Read: One of our best skills as human beings is our foresight to analyse and to think beyond the obvious. It works to our advantage in our day-to-day communication, where we can hear what is not explicitly asked, and provide people with the information that they’re actually seeking. For example, when someone asks you in the morning, “Do you think it’s going to be cold today?”, instead of just saying “Yes”, you say, “Yes, I think you should dress warmly.” This ability to read into things, to guess at what’s not said is an invaluable skill when it comes to work. It’s where we can pre-empt what someone needs or is implying and provide them with solutions without them needing to ask. This same skill however, can also work against us in our relationships with people. Often times, we don’t just take a question at face value, we hear what we think is implied in a question. For example, our mom or partner could ask us, “Oh you’re still hungry?”, and we’ll hear, “Why are you still eating? You’re fat.” And it’s not paranoia that’s urging us to decode what people say. We hear the implied meaning in their questions and statements because of how well we think know the person, or of our shared history together or of our own sensitivities and insecurities. If we’re already sensitive about something, we might hear judgement or criticism even if it’s not actually there. And sometimes, we’ve had past experiences with someone that wasn’t positive, and therefore whatever that person says to us in the future will be coloured by our perception of that experience. Sometimes, people really are passive-aggressive with implied meanings behind what they say, but often times people really just mean what they say and we are reading too much into it. Whether or not people are implying anything negative or critical in what they say is not as important as our response to them. When it comes to our relationships, what can help us not react negatively and give us a peace of mind is to take words at face value. This way, we can respond calmly to anything people say, and can be happy, always! --- Sign up for my newsletter for articles on living each day happily & positively! :D www.xandriaooi.co Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi