How To Do Effective Self-talk For Happiness (आनंद के लिए स्वसंवाद कैसे हो) by Sirshree

Events in our life are never the real cause of our sorrows and happiness. Self-talk is the cause behind our all kind of sorrows and happiness. But we are always under the impression that the reason for our unhappiness and sorrow is our neighbor, family members, post, body etc…But the actual reason is our self-talk. If your self-talk is changed then you start progressing towards your true nature. Understand with an example how self-talk is responsible for our sorrows and happiness – There were two people Mangesh and Pankaj. Pankaj had borrowed money from Mangesh. One day Mangesh gets heart attack. Now see how the self-talk of everyone works. When his wife heard the news she got unconscious. His son started weeping and crying. His servant got upset. His neighbor who was reading a newspaper heard this news and called his wife from the kitchen and said, Did you hear that Mangesh, our neighbor, got heart attack. She said, ‘I don’t know what is happening now a days, a person can get heart attack at any age. Now Pankaj heard this news, what could be his self-talk? He thought, ‘Now I don’t need to repay him that amount. No one would know about this because only we both knew about it. Now from this money I can buy new colour TV, Refrigerator or I can buy a new car. See now the reactions to the event are so different. One got unconscious, one started crying, one got upset, one is neutral and one became happy. Now suppose this self-talk hadn’t gone the way it did, what would have happened then? Now suppose Mangesh’s heart started working again and he got up. Now his wife got unconscious again, this time because of happiness. His son also started crying again but out of happiness. Servant became happy. Many guests were also coming so he also received some relief that now as he is alive people will stop coming for visit and his workload would not increase further. Now he is relax. When his neighbor hear this news that Mangesh is alive, he calls his wife from the kitchen and tells her, ‘Did you hear Mangesh is alive, his heart started again and he is fine.’ She says, ‘I don’t know what is happening now a days, you can’t tell anything about the doctors. They can say anything without checking properly.’ Now what happened with Pankaj. Pankaj became unhappy, his colour TV and colourful dreams vanished. See now the event is same. If events could bring happiness or sorrow then everyone should get that same happiness or sorrow, but this didn’t happen. That means with every incident the self-talk we make results in happiness or sorrow. So with the understanding you are receiving you need to check your self-talk and after every incident, you need to see, how shall I report this incident to myself. Never say, that person said something to me that’s why I am unhappy. Instead of that say, that person said something to me that’s why I am allowing myself to become unhappy. This is correct reporting. When you say I am unhappy, I am bored then this self-talk starts working