Voracious Relationship Addiction Is Baffling, Shaming And Self Destructive HD

Mark Smith discusses the root cause, the symptoms, the great self-destructing costs and effective therapy for love/relationship addiction. • How most of you know me – the broken, healing survivor of NAS • Had a brief flash of remembrance • 2005 until 2008 – what put me in harm’s way • POEM from 2007 • Remorse but NO SHAME • Addiction = Cunning, Baffling and Powerful • How did I get here? ‘Hostiles’ Christian Bail, the woman • The alien monster inside a man’s skin in ‘Men In Black’ • My trip to Hattiesburg, Mississippi in November 2007 – they wanted to keep me • Pinging – Frequency • Like being a Meth Addict – was before texting, but the IMing would make my heart ache in between messages • Label – “CRAZY” • Not about a lack of morality or spirituality – it’s about the core of you being a voracious, primitive, infant who desperately needs connection with their abandoning parent • My mother’s letter – she knew that I was a ticking time bomb • ALL THAT I LOST – years with my kids, having hurt my kids, marriage to a wonderful woman, REMORSE FOR having hurt her, my home, several million dollars, my integrity (have earned it back), respect in the community, the violence of C-PTSD & Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome, lost Associates, friends, was hurtful to the female fellow addicts I was involved with – IT WAS ALL THE STEEP PRICE THAT I HAD TO PAY IN ORDER TO HEAL • “The most beautiful stories always begin with wreckage.” – Jack London • SAA Meetings • A good therapist is like the Christian Bail character • Message to the partner – Qualities 1-5, Triangles • Message to the addict ‘Facing Love Addiction’ • Poem – ‘Light Brown Apple Moth’ Southern California Voracious quarantine pest infestation we have to contain it the Light Brown Apple Moth not a picky eater quarantine not safe to be around this one fields barren, picked over destructive, stunting, deforming larva once you see the moth the damage has already been done quarantine Australian invader a moving target spoils appearances detection is everything quarantine wreaking havoc in ecosystems no known natural enemies never known anything as invasive will the sticky traps work quarantine devours peaches, plums, nectarines, cherries, apricots, apples pears, grapes, citrus, avocados, leafy greens, tomatoes, bell peppers, broccoli, strawberries, cauliflower, roses, jasmine, oak, willow, walnut, pine, redwood and eucalyptus quarantine me voracious, emptiness seeking prey ancient needs unmet boundaries unseen, unheard, unheeded soul of the Light Brown Apple Moth Mark Smith 4-28-07 1. Hit bottom – so fortunate if you do so in time to save your marriage 2. 12 Step Meetings 3. ‘Facing Love Addiction’ 4. Healing The Shame That Binds You – Bradshaw 5. You need an experienced therapist